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Five Ways You Can Be an Active Bystander
10 things Men can do to prevent sexual violence
- Intervene if someone is getting
ready to have sex with a partner who is under the influence of alcohol or
- Intervene when you see “red flags” that might indicate a sexual assault is
about to happen. If someone says, "Now they can't say no",
about having sex with someone, distract the person, get the victim out of the
situation, and call the police if needed.
- Speak up when you hear others joke about rape. Comments such as
"That test raped me" are inappropriate and can trivialize rape.
- Confront rapists and report incidences to the police. Many perpetrators
are unaware that what they have done is a crime. Let them know that what
they did was not right and it was against the law.
- Attend a "Take a Stand!" bystander training to learn the skills
needed to prevent sexual assault on our campus.
Apps for Prevention
- Approach gender violence as a men’s issue involving men
of all ages and socioeconomic, racial and ethnic backgrounds. View men not
only as perpetrators or possible offenders, but as empowered bystanders
who can confront abusive peers.
- If a brother, friend, classmate, or teammate is abusing
his female partner -- or is disrespectful or abusive to girls and women in
general -- don't look the other way. If you feel comfortable doing so, try
to talk to him about it. Urge him to seek help. Or if you don't know what
to do, consult a friend, a parent, a professor, or a counselor. Don’t
- Have the courage to look inward. Question your own
attitudes. Don't be defensive when something you do or say ends up hurting
someone else. Try hard to understand how your own attitudes and actions
might inadvertently perpetuate sexism and violence, and work toward
- If you suspect that a woman close to you is being
abused or has been sexually assaulted, gently ask if you can help.
- If you are emotionally, psychologically, physically, or
sexually abusive to women, or have been in the past, seek professional
- Be an ally to women who are working to end all forms of
gender violence. Support the work of campus-based women's centers. Attend
"Take Back the Night" rallies and other public events. Raise
money for community-based rape crisis centers and battered women's
shelters. If you belong to a team, fraternity, or other student group, organize
- Recognize and speak out against homophobia and
gay-bashing. Discrimination and violence against lesbians and gays is
wrong. This abuse also has direct links to sexism (e.g., the sexual
orientation of men who speak out against sexism is often questioned, a
conscious or unconscious strategy intended to silence them. This is a key
reason few men do so).
- Attend programs, take courses, watch films, and read
articles and books about multicultural masculinities, gender inequality,
and the root causes of gender violence. Educate yourself and others about
how larger social forces affect the conflicts between individual men and
Below are some descriptions of applications for smart phones that may help
prevent sexual assault and relationship violence.
One Love DA App: This app can be used by family or friends to assess whether a person is in
danger of domestic violence. It can also be used by a victim in a
potentially dangerous relationship to assess their risk and get help. For more
information, or to download this app please visit the One Love Foundation website.
Circle of 6 App: With a touch of a button, a person can connect to their closest
friends and family with an automated message to alert those in their circle
when they are in danger. This app also has the capability of programming
local resources' contact information in the event of a crisis. For more
information, or to download this app please visit the Circle
of 6 website.