Was I raped?
It is never okay for someone to pressure or force another person to have sex when s/he doesn't want to.
Reaching out for information is a important first step. If you are trying to figure out if what happened to you was rape, consider the following questions:
- Are you old enough to give consent? In Arizona, the age of consent is 18.
- Did you have the capacity to give consent? If you were under the influence of drugs or alcohol, you cannot give consent.
- Did you agree to take part? Sex without consent is rape.
- More on the legal role of consent.
Did you know?
Alcohol is the most common date rape drug.
- College students are at high risk for sexual assault. College-age women are four times more likely to be assaulted than women of any other age group. Consent should never be coerced, implied or assumed, even if a relationship exists. Just because someone is in a relationship doesn't mean that they always have consent to have sex with their partner.
- Consent cannot be legally given by someone who is intoxicated. Someone may choose to be drunk, or high, but they are never responsible for being sexually assaulted. Others who cannot give consent include minors, those with certain disabilities, someone who is unconscious, or those who are coerced or bullied into sexual acts.
- The way a person dresses is no excuse for rape. Women who dress sexy are not "asking for it". Rape is rape; it is about power and control and putting one's wishes above another person's. It is not about attraction.
- Only 3% of reported rapes are considered to be false reports. Those who encourage the myth that people lie about being victims make it more difficult for victims to report the incident.
Over 90,000 sexual assaults in college are attributed to alcohol and 53.4% of victims of sexual assault reported that their perpetrator has consumed alcohol when the incident took place. 73% of sexual assaults were perpetarted by someone the victim knows.
Also, 60% of rapes on campus occur in a victim's residence. It is important to watch out for your friends, even if you are in a familiar place with familiar people. Men can be victims
Individuals who identify as lesbian, gay, and bisexual have an equal or higher rate of interpersonal violence, sexual violence, and stalking as compared to heterosexuals.
- It is important to remember that men can also be victims of rape or attempted rape. In the United States, about 10 percent of reported
rapes involve male victims, and many more go unreported. Men and boys are often
reluctant to report the crime of sexual assault, or to seek services because
they feel humiliated, shamed or confused by the crime or because they feel that
seeking help will make them feel vulnerable or weak.
- Most perpetrators of male sexual assault are men,
and they rape both gay and straight men. Rape is an act of violence, not of sex
or sexual desire.
- Help is available. Most rape crisis centers provide
free and confidential services for all people who have been hurt by sexual
assault, including men.
Approximately 1 in 8 lesbian women and almost half of bisexual women have been raped in their lifetime.
Northern Arizona University StatisticsA 2015 survey of Northern Arizona University students revealed that in the last 12 months:
- 7.4% of students reported sexual touching without their consent
- 4.7% female and 1.8% male students experienced a sexual penetration attempt without their consent
- 3.8% female and 0.4% male students experienced sexual penetration without their consent
- 8.8% of students reported being in an emotionally abusive relationship and 2.5% in a physically abusive relationship
- 2.8% of students reported being in a sexually abusive relationship
- 5.8% of students reported being the victim of stalking
- Victim Witness Services is a nonprofit organization
that provides crisis intervention, victim assistance, witness advocacy, crime
prevention education, and victim compensation to assist in alleviating the
emotional, physical, and financial needs of victims. Call them at 928-679-7770. After hours, call Flagstaff PD at (928)
774-1414 to request that an advocate be paged
- Northland Family Help Center is committed to
providing safe shelter, counseling, advocacy, community education, and referral
for individuals and families affected by violence and abuse. Call their 24/hr crisis line at 928-527-1900
- NACASA is a rape crisis center available 24 hours to
provide medical forensic examinations to victims of sexual assault. Call to have them paged at 928-213-6112
- Peaks Counseling provides anger management
counseling for potential and past perpetrators of abuse. Call them at
- The “Not Alone” website is a government resource for students, schools, and advocates on information for responding and preventing sexual assaults on college campuses.
- Arizona Sexual Assault Network is a
collective voice that reduces the threat and mitigates the effects of sexual
assault in our state to achieve a society free from sexual violence.
- Arizona Coalition Against Domestic Violence provides information on dating violence and legal advocacy, and serves
as a voice representing the needs of domestic violence service providers and
the victims they serve.
- Arizona Sexual Violence Prevention and Education Program links to sexual assault state coalitions as well as to a
variety of sexual assault organizations, networks, and projects. You can also
obtain information on services for survivors of sexual violence and their
family and friends in Arizona and across the United States